what can i do when elders want to poke their nose in?.
they want to have another chat with me and my wife, but we dont want to, it just gets us down..
I was will confirm the private and personal line works. My father was previously an elder and he is the one who put me on to that phrase when I was still in.
Whenever anyone tried to stick their nose in my business this was the nice way of saying mind your own business.
If they push it shake your head, smile, then say “I’m sorry but this is a private matter not open for discussion”. And walk away, hang up the phone or close the door.
my 18-year-old daughter in columbia, sc ran away to arleta, ca to move in with jw family.
they are living together with the mother's permission in her house along with 10 other family members.
she is surrounded by jws 24 hours a day, seven days a week.. is there anyone in the columbia area who would be willing to help me - maybe meet for a cup of coffee or facetime.
I think mom has already made it clear that daughter is going to be punished for moving out. Mom stated in a previous thread that she has already rescinded the college fund daughter had and reallocated it to her youngest son. Mom also is withholding identification from daughter.
My advice is to stop being vindictive towards your daughter, painting her as the bad guy and you as the victim. Like it or not she is an adult, and while this is most likely a mistake, intentionally making her life harder is not going to facilitate reconciliation.
my cousin's girlfriend moved from another state and is now living in our home.
they said she lived in a bad situation, but i don't believe them.
my cousin lies.
Not sure it’s any of your business. Therefore I think you should mind your own business.
hi everyone i'm 19 year old and i've been a jehovahs witness for 3 years now.
i've followed the rules and i'm even a pioneer.
but i've hid the secret of a boyfriend i had from india.
They want to keep you off balance emotionally so they can manipulate you. If you get kicked out of your house you find a new place to live. The religion tries to scare you into thinking it will be the end of the world if you leave. It won’t be. Do you have any work mates that might be looking for a roommate? Whatever short term solution you find doesn’t have to be forever, it just has to be safe and something you can afford. One step at a time......
hi everyone i'm 19 year old and i've been a jehovahs witness for 3 years now.
i've followed the rules and i'm even a pioneer.
but i've hid the secret of a boyfriend i had from india.
Deep breath. It’s all going to be ok, it will never be the same, but you will be ok no matter what happens. Make a plan for yourself if you should happen to get disfellowshipped.
it struck me that the society has created a culture of lazy jw parenting.. rather than parents being there to guide and direct and help their children through all stages of life, the gb / society has become the "go-too" for everything.. if the child has an issue, there is a wt article for that.. does the child need help with something else?
ah, there is a caleb and sophia cartoon for that.. what about that other topic?
ah, there is a book for that.. so rather than being present parents, the average jw parent simply outsources their parenting to the organization!
I think the bigger issue with the JW brand of parenting is they think everyone is the same, their thoughts, feelings, and reactions are all the same according to the Watchtower. IRL that’s never true and each child/person deserves to have their own unique situation, personality, and feelings taken in to account.
Oh and the answer to everything is do more Watchtower related activities.
in case you're not aware of my last two threads:.
the situation that arose in that my mother has been having secret access to my daughter and refusing to tell me how she is: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/5012900121935872/am-overreacting-here.
the build up to my solicitors visit: https://www.jehovahs-witness.com/topic/6284953638666240/solicitors-appontment-tomorrow-advice-appreciated.
😀 So happy for you. I tell my DF’d relatives that they do not have to let our JW relatives treat them disrespectfully.
let's call him "dave".. dave: hello?.
dave: we dont have to tell you how she is.
dave: <her mother> has custody.
Nope not overreacting - your mother is acting like you have no say in what your daughter does. Just because you aren’t a witness doesn’t give her the right to do whatever she wants with your child.
i came to see if any of the old faces are here, thank you so much, you've helped me through so much.
so many of you are responsible for helping me to learn to be kind.
i love you guys, stay strong stay kind.
Nice to see you here again!
my boyfriend, who is a disfellowshipped jehova's witness, asks me to study the bible for 3 months or he won't marry me (i'm a muslim woman).
he loves me and really wants to marry me but he is doing a passive blackmailing: if i don't study for 3 months, 1 time per week, in my home country, and without him, there will be no marriage... as a muslim, i believe the bible is god's word so i look at the bible from time to time and would be happy to study with him.
but the fact that he is kind of saying "study the bible or bye bye no marriage" is really hurtful.
Run - he doesn’t respect your right to believe what you want to. You are being given information from his actions to make a decision, use it.
